Learning to love yourself x

“The most important relationship in your life is the relationship you have with yourself. 

Because no matter what happens, you will always be with yourself.”

Diane Von Furstenburg

This month I’ve come over all Diane Von Furstenburg obsessed whilst reading her biography ‘The Woman I wanted to be’. I love to read and since Little Monkey has been born, picking up a good book has been non-existent.  However during our recent family holiday, I knew I would have time for the odd chapter whilst Henry got passed around the inlaws for cuddles.  

So snuggled up in my comfy clothes in the incredible Blaenpant Mansion (Blog post coming soon) I tucked into her highly inspirational book.  DVF has an incredible way with words.  There is real conviction in her advice which comes from life experience.  However the quote which has stayed with me since coming home is:

“I didn’t really know what I wanted to do, but I knew the woman I wanted to become”


Me – Pre baby, at my happiest weight wise x

Since returning home, I couldn’t help but wonder…am I the woman I want to be? 

Maternity leave offers you the luxurious gift of time.  Time to stop, reevaluate your life, career and prioritise what is important to you.  Being a great Mum to Henry is obviously at the top of that list, but what about the rest of me?

I started Mummy Mondays as a diary for weight loss or getting back into my pre-baby body.  Which by the way went to pot during our recent holiday to South Wales.  Lets just say I had way too many portions of the “best fish & chips ever” and way too many evening dinner puddings.  Yesterday on returning home from our holiday, I caught myself in a full length mirror and I will admit, I felt really sad.  I realised I can’t be the woman I want to be, when I don’t like her reflection looking back at me. Despite good intentions with joining the gym, I realised that committing to the odd weekly swim isn’t going to cut it.  

Therefore this evening I signed up to Zumba and with a spring in my tired old step, I released my inner Shakira and danced my little legs off. And you know what, it felt liberating.  I’ve also signed up to Yoga to help release some tension I’ve built up since the birth of Henry.  Before he was conceived, I found yoga to be a great way of letting go, shame it has taken me so long to take it up again.  

“Beauty is perfect in its imperfections, so you just have to go with the imperfections”


Next up is my overall look.  I’ve neglected my nails, my hair, my love of shopping (for me, not Henry) and my skin care routine.  I’ve always been prone to adult acne, however I finally got it under control pre-baby.  But now with a mixture of hormones and “sleep or wash face?” mentality, its looking  dreadful.  Thankfully during my midnight feeds I’ve discovered a whole new world of beauty Vloggers on YouTube.  Beauty lovers such as the gorgeous Tanya Burr have ignited my previous love of make-up and skin care and I’m starting to take note of new trends.  

“I don’t like to talk about my dreams. I like to make them happen. 

I prefer to talk about them when they’re done”


Another subject which has been at the forefront of my mind is my career. I’ve always been in the fashion industry, from buying to styling and then back to buying.  I love my job and fashion is a part of who I am, but can I still be ambitious and be a good Mum? This is something I need to explore in my last 4 months of maternity leave.  Watch this space…

“I always wanted to be a femme fatale. Even when I was a young girl. 

I never really wanted to be a girl, I wanted to be a woman”.


And last but no ways least, am I the woman I want to be to my husband?  Thanks to our recent getaway and due to our amazing family, we finally got to catch up on sleep.  Its amazing what some sea air, a good nights sleep oh and a hot tube can do to get the spark going again.  We introduced Friday date nights a while ago, but they have fallen by the way side.  I think it wouldn’t hurt for me to make an effort on such nights to look sexy for my husband, rather than my usual leggings, hair scrunched, scrubbed face look. 

So there you have it.  What started off as a good old book read, turned into something much more.  Follow my #MummyMondays to see my journey into the woman I want to be x 

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