The day we went back to bed x

“One must not let oneself be overwhelmed by sadness”.

Jackie Kennedy

Since going on Maternity leave, I vowed to live everyday like it was my last before returning to my 9-5.  Little Monkey and I are up, out and dressed most days.  Whether its for a bonding baby led groups such as Sing & Sign, or just for a walk in our Village, we get out.

But Monday everything just got too much and I declared a Mummy & Baby PJ day.  Wearing our printed finest, comic strip (Henry) florals (Moi), we climbed into his (oh soooo comfy) crib, added some teddies and snuggled up.  Ewan the sheep provided the background soundtrack to our mellow day (I forgot how much I love Ewan).  Beatrice Potter provided the daytime stories and the teddies added, well, they made everything look soft and pretty.  

The culprit of my day of sorrow?  Sleep regression (cue red faced emoji).  Henry for the past 2 weeks has decided 5 hour stints in the evening is “so last month mummy” and 90 minutes is all he needs.  His regression turned into my depression as night after night I feel like I’m being dragged from the dead to either feed, shhhh, or cuddle.  Its not until the morning when I see the pile of bottles discarded around the house, that I realise how many times I was actually up.  Ooo thats one for Tracey Emin.

So what is sleep regression Mr Google?

The 4 month sleep regression marks a permanent change in your baby’s sleeping habits.  As your baby’s brain matures, around the 4 month mark, her sleeping patterns change – they become more like yours. Now, she is cycling between light and deep sleep – just like you. When you look at it this way, it’s clear that the 4 month sleep regression is a very normal, very healthy developmental milestone, just like learning to walk and talk.

Baby Sleep Site

Perfect, so Henry is ticking another development milestone, whilst I’m operating on little or no sleep on a daily basis. And did I mention I’ve given up caffeine this week? Read Here

Fortunately for me however, when the going gets tough I can climb into a crib and get some shut eye during the day.  Unfortunately for Daddy, “I have to go and do 9 hours at work”.  Therefore he has his own theory on getting back to sleep, “I think he should go in his own room” and “I think he’s hungry, lets start weaning”.  Cue sense of being overwhelmed, quick Henry lets hide out in your cot.

New parental guidelines state 6 months for both weaning and moving baby into their own room, however this differs from family to family.  “Oh when you were little it was 1 month, 2 months, 3 months….” Its an overwhelming mind field of information, when is the right time?  

I asked my lovely NCT mummies and they are all sticking to the 6 month mark on both, however family members think I should “add a little Rusk to their milk at night”.  I’m still waiting for my Health Visitor to call me back for advice. 

Now its Wednesday and I’m sticking to my guns (sorry Daddy) and waiting to ride out this Sleep thingy.  Henry is only just starting to embrace a nighttime routine, therefore I think its too soon to move him out into the big bad world (well his rather lovely jungle themed room). And as for weaning, he is not yet showing signs he is ready for puree delights or baby led finger buffets.  Therefore I will continue to enjoy my tidy kitchen until then.  

When Little Monkey and I finally emerged from our little cot oasis, we both had a gorgeous 2 hour sleep and all was good with the world again.  Well until next month…

I’d love to hear your sleep regression stories…x 



  1. August 12, 2015 / 7:13 pm

    You poor thing, sleep deprivation is the worst! My son went through the same stage, I promise it won't last forever. Going back to bed sounds exactly the right thing to do!! I hope the regression passes quickly for you!
    Sending a hug and some chocolates!
    Becky xx

  2. August 13, 2015 / 7:10 am

    Hi Becky, thanks so much for taking the time to read my post. Thankfully (after much praying) we had a much better sleep last night with Henry. Not counting my chickens yet, but hopefully like you said, it won't last forever.

    Thanks for the hug and mmmm chocolate x

  3. August 14, 2015 / 9:18 am

    It's so tough when they don't sleep. I am rubbish at pyjama days, I need to be outdoors!

  4. August 14, 2015 / 10:50 am

    I'm the same. We both end up crawling the walls. But Monday was a 'not getting dressed' kind of day x

  5. August 14, 2015 / 3:44 pm

    It is hard but you will get there, grab sleep when you can. If you move your baby into their own room because someone else said it's a good idea you won't sleep anyway as you'll be worrying, do what YOU think is right. x

  6. August 14, 2015 / 7:43 pm

    I don't miss those nights! I kept my babies with me until 6 months

  7. August 14, 2015 / 8:50 pm

    I'm so with you on this, my little girl is going through exactly the same thing *yawn*. I forgot all about the 4 month regression and it is a bugger (excuse one's language!), my worst night I was up around 10 times to pop her dummy in, exhausted. Hoping it passes soon, although looking at the monitor I see the child moving, damn! I feel you pain and having a chill day sounds good, I just wish I could grab some zzz's during the day but she doesn't really sleep much then! Sorry for my ramble and thanks so much for linking up to the #bestandworst 🙂 hope you'll pop by again! X

  8. August 15, 2015 / 8:49 pm

    Sleep deprivations is so so hard and I remember vividly crying through a lot of it because I was just SO tired. With regards to advice, there are so so many right ways to do things, I eventually learnt to just do what suited me. It's hard when you're being bombarded from all directions though. PJ day sounds pretty lovely though xx

  9. August 16, 2015 / 7:33 am

    You are right, I don't think Henry (or Me for that matter) is ready for his own room. I just have to survive this development leap and hope sleep follows soon. X

  10. August 16, 2015 / 7:34 am

    I guess once I survive these nights, something else will change, little regrets, haha x

  11. August 16, 2015 / 7:37 am

    Thanks for sharing. You don't feel so alone (and somewhat crazy) when you know other parents are going/gone through it. He only woke 3 times last night, I should count myself lucky, lol. Thanks for the Linky invite, I loved getting involved. X

  12. August 16, 2015 / 7:40 am

    Thanks for commenting lovely. Oh crying seems to be the new smiling in my household lately. Thankfully feeling much better today. Hormones and sleep deprivation don't go together. But great advice, I'll find what suits me and the little guy x

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